Auto-suggestion

Auto-suggestion or self-suggestion is that powerful tool which directly effect the sub-conscious or subliminal mind. Auto-suggestion is simple, its the statement  made in the present tense, of the kind or type of human being you want to be. It is like writing the commercial about yourself, for yourself. They influence both mind (conscious as well sub-conscious) that, in turn, influence both the attitude and behavior. Auto-suggestions can be negative as well as positive. It depends on how you choose to be.

Some negative auto-suggestions are:

- I am exhausted or tired.

- I am not an athlete.

- I have a very poor memory power.

- I am weak.

- I am not good at maths.

When you feed your mind with these kind of negative suggestions, especially your sub-conscious mind believes it and starts reflecting it through your behavior. For an instance, when a person who gives himself the auto-suggestion,"I have a very poor memory," is introduced to a new person, he will not make the effort to remember his name because he tells himself," I have a poor memory so there's no point even trying to remember" ( so i was saying in before posts, attitude really makes character and reflects in behavior). Of course, he won't remember his name the next time he meet him, and will again tell himself,"i have a poor memory". Its never ending cycle and a self fulfilling prophecy.

When an individual repeats a belief or deep thinking often enough, it sinks and deepens into his ocean of subliminal mind and become the reality of his life.A lie that is repeated often enough becomes accepted as a truth internally, as someone has said "A lie if repeated 100 times becomes a truth".

So, what necessary steps should be taken to get rid of this irregularity of mind? Simple answer is to make positive statements of affirmations. Any picture you hold in your mind becomes a reality sooner or later.Auto-suggestion is somewhat like self-hypnotism but not concentrated like hypnotism. Its also like Autogenics where suggestions plays part to control your body even your heartbeat and breathing. Auto-suggestions should not be phrased in a negative way. Never say," I am so disorganized, " Instead say," I am well organized person." Our mind is like the positive magnet, it just get quick attraction to negativity, if you don't believe i will give one example. If you tell ," don't think of  vampires," its likely that the image of vampires with long nails and teeth immediately popped into your mind, try this!

So, always think of positive, good, better and apply this in your life. Making positive self-image can boost your rational power. Image streaming is one tool for positive image making which can help you and prepare you for quick decision, problem solving and much more..

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Positive Body Language

                                Positive Body language for positive personality

One great secret of success is by acting like you are already a success. Sending out good and positive body language is like having two voices showering praises on you instead of only one. In addition to this, people are always more likely to remember what they see and few seconds of body movement can be worth an entire interview of words. It is said that action speaks louder than words. But how does one go about getting better body language?

I am going to give some tips so that  one can be able to sell themselves or project positively before others using posture and expression.

1) Stand Straight:

Slouching or hunching gives an impression that you have something to hide. Keep your head up and smile while you are walking. Relax and let your arms hang at your sides. This walk will give people the impression that you have nothing to hide and that you are used to being listened to. Another thing, always make use of your hands while you speak. Making hand motions and gestures increases the chances that people will concentrate on what you are saying. Being animated also helps someone get excited about a project or story that is being described to them. Excitement spreads, if there is someone to spread it.

2) Pay attention:

One of the major aspects of good body language is paying attention to someone and also looking like you are paying attention and not get distracted and lose concentration. Nodding the head and make positive remarks will let someone know that you are interested in what they are saying. Taking notes if appropriate and applicable is also suggested.

3) Speak carefully and slowly

 When someone is nervous or unsure of themselves, they often tend to speak at a rapid pace. Speaking slowly and calmly will give someone a sense of your calm. Speaking at a moderate pace will make you look, feel and act more confident.

4) Make Eye contact

This tip is one which can not be ignored while doing conversation. When you make eye contact with the one whom you are speaking, it shows your confidence level. Because this look is traditionally challenging, it sends the message that you are not afraid to stand up for the goals and will not get intimidated by the person. Try not to meet the eye for too long. Maintain eye contact for as long as you feel is necessary and them look somewhere else, its because if u keep looking for long period without a blink can send negative message it can be mentioned as staring so keep this in mind.

5) Relax your body

Tension  or stress is the thing which spreads like virus from one person to another.When someone is self-conscious or tensed, other people have the same sense of stress. To reduce this, take deep breaths and let yourself relax before an important meeting or date or interview or any challenges which is take your breaths away.

6)Scale the invisible wall

People often keep an invisible sphere or personal space around themselves. Stepping into this space for a minute will help to gain self-confidence. Touching in hand, shoulder or shaking hands with a firm grasp are all signs of confidence and strength and helps to break the wall.

These are some tips which bring positive changes in anyone life.But its not the magical wand which works instantly, it needs time, practice, determination and one important thing attitude for success and change.

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