Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble

Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble
Being responsible or handling responsibility is one important part of personality development. Its not easy as it seems to be responsible. If we believe in supernatural or God and when we chant his names, it doesn't mean that we should become lazy and give up all our responsibilities to him. Thinking that things are in God's hand is just the stupidity. Either there is something in our destiny, we are the one to make it, its not like it will complete automatically. Labor and hard-work is the key-point here.
The ideal approach to work is; be balanced; be responsible but do not purchase trouble either. Sometimes, one tends to think, " I am getting this much salary, but he is also getting the same amount. But he is doing very little work and is mostly escaping from his work. So why should i work so hard? Let me also escape." But by escaping from one's responsibilities, one gets a feeling of guilt, which increases one's anxieties manifold. There will not be anything known as peace of mind or internal peace within him. The safest and the best course of action is to accomplish your job honestly and responsibly which surely increase your self-esteem and confidence level.

While doing our duties responsibly, we should be intelligent enough not to add on to our responsibilities by taking additional loads due to our egoistic initiative; otherwise we are simply purchasing trouble- a negative personality trait indeed. Such an egoistic person thinks, "He is doing so much work, i must show the world that i am much better and greater then him." There is a vast difference between EGO and CONFIDENCE. If you think you can do the given work-this is confidence but if you think you ONLY can do the given task- this is EGO. So, all we need to do is extract EGO from Confidence and we will succeed. An egoistic person takes on so much load on oneself that one has no time for self, family even no time for basic activities of life. This negative busy schedule not only destroys him but also people and surroundings near him. How can such a person who, in order to satisfy his inflated ego, is caught up in unending materialistic activities, ever attain peace of mind?
So one should do one's job properly and, at the same time, set aside sufficient time for cultivating one's inward life by chanting, meditating, reading books, practicing yoga.

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Winners Versus Losers

                           Winners versus Losers


**The winner is always part of answer;
* The Loser is always a part of problem.
** The Winner always has a program;
* The Loser always has an excuse.
** The Winner says, "Let me do it for you";
* The Loser says," That is not my job".
** The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
* The Loser sees a problem in every answer.
** Winner says," It may be difficult but it is possible";
* The Loser says," It may be possible but it is too difficult".
** When a Winner makes a mistake, he says," I was wrong";
*  When a Loser makes mistake, he says," It wasn't my fault.
** Winner makes commitments;
* Loser makes promises.
** Winners have dreams;
* Losers have schemes.
** Winners say," I must do something.";
* Losers says," Something must be done".
** Winners are part of the team;
* Losers are apart from the team.
** Winners see the gain;
* Losers see the pain.
** Winners see possibilities;
* Losers see probabilities.
** Winners believe is win/win;
* Losers believe in for them to win, someone has to lose.
** Winners are like a thermostat;
* Losers are like a thermometer.
** Winners choose what they say;
* Losers say what they choose.
** Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
* Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
** Winners follow the phiolosophy of empathy: "Don't do to others what you would not want them to do";
* Losers follow the philosophy:" Do it to others before they do it to you".
** Winners make it happen;
* Losers let it happen.


[Source: YOU CAN WIN--Shiv Khera]


--These are some of the differences in attitude and behaviors of winners and losers. One last word which i have experienced myself personally. If you wanna win, do things which winners do or if you can't do that, just don't do things which losers do....

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Personality Judgement with Fooding Behavior

                        JUDGE YOUR PERSONALITY FROM FOODING HABIT

Well this topic is really interesting. There are various tool to judge personality or behavior of an individual like handwriting analysis, body language, facial expression, intonations etc etc but now i am going to put forth the extraordinary tool which is simple and used by everyone in most cases, i.e. judging the personality by the way we take foods.
According to a research done by psychologist Donna Dawson, from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, Chicago, our dining habits offer insights into our personalities. Use the tables to find out more about yourself and anyone your are linked with.

FIRST EVALUATION--- How you apply your ketchup


Cover the food in swirling lines------------------showy
Dot sauce on the food that needs it ------------Reserved
Splash a neat blob on the side, not even touching the food -Responsible
Whack a big splodge all over the food -------     Ambitious
Down your grub in the stuff  ------------------     Family man
Draw words or shapes on the plate -------------  Easygoing     

SECOND EVALUATION--- Your favourite ice-cream flavour

Chocolate -------------------------------------    Showy
Strawberry ------------------------------------   Reserved
Butterscotch ---------------------------------    Responsible
Choco Chip ------------------------------------   Ambitious
Banana -----------------------------------------   Family man
Vanilla ------------------------------------------  Easygoing

THIRD EVALUATION--- How you drink your soup                      Drink from the bowl ------------------------   Showy
Use a small spoon -------------------------     Reserved
Take half spoonfuls  -------------------------  Responsible
Use a large spoon   --------------------------  Ambitious
Drink from a mug -----------------------------  Family man
Slurp from a mug -----------------------------  Easygoing
                             

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Make your Life a Projectile!!!

           Projecting yourself to the world
At 7.30 am, Jack Conrad rose from a sound sleep and prepared himself for the day. During the course of dressing, he convinced his wife to see a certain movie in the evening and spoke sharply to his son for his low grades in exams.
At 9.00 am he arrived at his job as a manager in a small manufacturing company, comfortably settling into the day’s routine. Before lunch, he has made various important decision regarding sales.
Mr. Conrad’s lunch hour was spent pleasantly with two co-workers in the company cafeteria. The conversation ranged from weather to cricket upto upcoming local election.

On the way to home, he stopped at the dry cleaners, only to find out that a pair of trousers was missing.
Home once again, Mr. Conrad relaxed before dinner by having a bout with his son on the electronic video game console. Dinner was the usual round of family conversation, and eventually Mr. Conrad enjoyed the movie he has convinced his wife to see that morning.
Mr. Conrad’s day sounds pleasant, if not routine. Perhaps you think it wasn’t very dynamic at all. But in point of fact, that’s not true, for throughout the course of day. Actually, Mr. Conrad was actively energetic and involved in selling himself. How? By projecting himself in his world. Let’s briefly review his day and observe Mr. Conrad, the salesman.
-Convinced Wife re: movies-------------------Sales
-Urged son to get better marks in exam---------Sales
-Put forth his views at lunch very strongly-------Sales
-Haggled with dry cleaner--------------------Sales
-Convinced son to play electronic video game-----Sales
-Presided at family dinner table; gave advice----Sales
As like Mr. Conrad we too are selling ourselves throughout the course of every day, which means we are projecting ourselves in our environment from moment to moment. As we see from Mr. Conrad’s example, the ability to project oneself to the world doesn’t belong exclusively to a professional salesperson.


Selling Yourself
Selling yourself on a daily basis in areas like interpersonal relationships and at work really means you are able to project, yourself successfully, you’ve got a good deal of positive energy that helps you to go after and get what you need and want. Conversely, if your self-esteem is low, you won’t be able to get what you want.---or simply you won’t make the sale.
One of the most profound ways in which we are involved in personal sales is in establishing interpersonal relationships, especially in love. Meeting someone and making contact is nothing but a salesmanship. Here are two approaches:
Chris Cena is a shy middle-aged man who’s already been married and divorced. Over the years he’s fallen into a routine which includes plenty of reading, jogging to be fit, and chess one night a week with an older male friend. Occasionally he will date someone, but generally these are established friends. He’s had one or two short affairs since his divorce, but he hasn’t been sexually active in over an year.
Recently, a friend convinced him to attend a party at the home of someone he didn’t know. He was reluctant to go, spent most of his time in a corner, and left early.
At one point of evening, Mr Cena was introduced to a young woman whom he found attractive. He would have liked to pursue her, but he was at a loss for conversation, and eventually her attention was drawn to another group of people.
John Regal was at the same party. He too is a divorced man in early forties. Mr. Regal has always been outgoing, and after the trauma of his divorce passed, he resumed an active social life that includes many friends and casual and serious dating.
John Regal was also introduced with the same gal, and he too, was captivated by her. He engaged her attention by drawing her out in conversation. He displayed a genuine interest in her aside from the possibility of sexual relationship, and as a result, she consented to go out with him.
Obviously, John regal was successful while Chris cena was not, for the simple reason that John effectively sold his personality to the young lady. Feeling self-confident and being able to put yourself across, no matter what the situation, are important ingredients for successfully projecting yourself to the world. So, is determination, or else, you will give up before you reach your goal.
So to improve these aspects or tool which can alter life in positive way, personality development topics are in need as like i have described before. By changing handwriting, you can change your personality. Body language is also an important tool which can’t be left... ( to be contd) 

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Hindrances in Personality Development

              Mental ailments blocking Personality development

We have talked about personality development in many aspects in previous posts. Now i am gonna discuss about the mental maladies which becomes bar for developing overall personality of an individual.
    We can say  21st era is the era of technology and science .The discoveries,inventions are rapidly increasing day by day. Almost all part of our body can be replaced or transplanted ( in medical terms) except the only one part which can't be replaced "OUR BRAIN" and no science and technology hitherto is able to discover to complete this process. Our kidney can be transplant, even heart transplantation is successful so the ailments effecting these organs can be removed by new transplantation. But in the case of BRAIN, if its attacked by any ailment, it can be cured not removed till the last breath. The more powerful our brain is , its even more delicate. If our body is ill or say if our body becomes handicapped, we can even survive cz our memory is still alive but if our brain is ruptured or damaged by any accidental incidents or if we forget everything not even remember self, then at that moment what will be the meaning of life and living for us? We can walk, eat and complete our daily activities but forgot who we are, our identity and everything... I am talking all these only to show  how much delicate our brain is and more important than our body.
As Personality development comes from both brain and body but i say brain has bigger percentage to make it happen as our body is totally controlled by brain.

 MAJOR MENTAL DISEASES

Amnesia-- termed as a partial or total loss of memory. Fresh fruits,protein diets like salmon fish, foods rich in Omega-3 fatty acid is needed to cure. Apart from this stress reducers, meditation, particular yoga can be plus point.

Paralysis is one kind of disease which affects our body but in reality its the error in nervous system especially spinal cord which is directly related to our brain. And psychotherapy with physiotherapy is needed to cure this.

Epilepsy is also seems to be physical but its neurological or mental disorder and can happen anytime anywhere.

Attention Deficit disorder (ADD)-This is not so serious illness but it happens mostly in growing children. its marked by loss of concentration, restless. Kids go far from books. And apart from allopathy medications, meditation, autogenics, yoga will be helpful.

Addiction-- Its common and effecting almost all in some aspects or in any form. We know the thing which we are doing is not good for us, instead we do that repeatedly, this is what we call addiction. Addiction can be simpler to chronic for example: if a person is addicted to nail biting, it can effect his personality but not health seriously, but if another one is addicted to smoking,drinking or taking drugs as a whole, its more serious and chronic which not only degrades his personality but also life. And the way to cure this is done according to the concentration and type. If addiction is just in beginning stage, simple techniques like auto-suggestion, positive affirmation, hypnotherapy can reduce or remove but if its more then there is no way to reduce than sending the victim to rehabilitation centers..

Autism--- This is also a condition or disorder of brain where one is not able to communicate with others esp. using language or learning it as well as abstract concepts. Its also mostly common in growing kids. Special psychotherapy and psychologist are needed to cure this disease.

Mass Phobia-- There are many phobias which directly or indirectly effecting us but the most which effects personality development or growth is mass phobia. A person is very talent in his field, he has ocean of knowledge but unfortunately he is not able to express this to public, then whats the importance of he being knowledgeble? This can happen to anyone. When come in front of mass, nervous system stops to work, not a single word comes out of mouth because mind is totally vacant and negative impression will be messaged to public about you. So to cure this join public speaking courses,prepare what you are gonna say before mirror, meditation, clam music relaxing mind,stress reducing techniques are needed. Study books from Dale Carnegie in public speaking. I'll be posting about this specific subject sooner.

Depression--is a serious medical condition that affects thoughts, feelings, and the ability to function in everyday life. Depression can occur at any age and is distinct from the mood changes that may be associated with stress or grief. Now this is more serious which needs total allopathic help with respect to psychological. If its not cured in time, it can cause serious results. A person suffering from depression can leads to suicidal tendencies so a psychiatrist consult is a must. After controlled, one can use soothing music from Mozart, Bach for relaxing brain.

Bipolar Disorder (BPAD)-- Its more chronic than depression. In this state of mind, the patient experiences various episodes of depression and mania. Mania, a condition marked by periods of excitement ( euphoric state), delusions and over-activity. We can say mania is the opposite of depression. Allopathic medication is the only remedy.

Apart from these ailments, there are lots and loads of mental maladies for which our society is still not being able to be positive 100%.Person affecting from the above mentioned maladies needs more care, love and help to come out. They are totally different from normal human being when attacked by these ailments but after being cured totally, they become normal to work and enjoy daily life.
All these brain related diseases hamper the personality development of an individual as being related to mind.

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Mathematics for Personality Development

CALCULATE FASTER THAN A CALCULATOR

Just imagine being able to multiply larger lumbers in your head--faster than you could tap the numbers in calculator.How would people near you react if you could calculate square roots--and even cube roots mentally without any electro

nic support? You'll gain the reputation of being extremely intelligent.

People equate mathematical ability with intelligence. If you are able to do multiplication, division, squaring and square roots in your head in less time than your friends, they will be forced to believe you have a superior intellect which unknowingly increase your personality and self confidence too.

Engineers familiar with these kinds of strategies gain a reputation for being geniuses because they can give almost instant answers to square

root problems. Finding the length of a hypotenuse is child's play using methods which will be described later..

Mathematical Mind

Is it true that some people are born with a mathematical mind? Do some people have an advantage over others? And, conversely, are some people at a disadvantage when they have to solve mathematical problems?

The difference between high achievers and low achievers is not the brain they were born with but how they learn to use it.High achievers use better strategies than low achievers.The methods are easier than those we've learnt in the past so you'll solve problems more quickly and make fewer mistakes.

"The easier the method we use to

solve a problem, the faster we'll solve it with less chance of making a mistake". People who use better methods are faster at getting the answer and make fewer errors, while those who use poor methods are slower at getting the answer and make more mistakes. It doesn't make much to do with intelligence or having a 'mathematical brain'.

Multiplication: Part I

How would you like to master your tables upto the 10 times table in less than 10 minutes? And your tables upto the 20 times table in less than half an hour? I only assume you know the 2 times tables reasonably well, and that you can add and subtract simple numbers.

Multiplying Numbers upto TEN

We'll begin by learning how to multiply numbers upto 10x10. This is how it works:

We'll take 7x8 as an instance.

Write 7X8= on a piece of paper and draw a circle below each number to be multiplied

7X8=

0 0

Now go to the first number to be multiplied i.e. 7. How many more do you need to make 10? The answer is 3. Write 3 in the circle below the 7. Now go to the 8. What do we write in the circle below the 8? How many more to make 10? The answer is 2. Write 2 in the circle below the 8. Your work should look like this.

7X8=

3 2

Now subtract diagonally. Take either one of the circled numbers (3 or2) away from the number, not directly above, but diagonally above or crossways. In other words, you either take 3 from 8 or 2 from 7. Subtract only one time, so choose the subtraction you find easier. Either way, the answer is the same 5. This is the first digit of your answer.

8-3=5 or 7-2=5

Now multiply the numbers in the circles. Three times 2 is 6. This is the last digit of your answer. The answer is 56. This is how the completed problem looks.

7X8=56

3 2

If you know the 2 times table reasonably well,you can easily master the tables up to the 10 times table, and beyond.Let's try another example,

8X9=?

2 1

How many more to make 10? The answer is 2 and 1. We write 2 and 1 below the numbers. What do we do now? We subtract diagonally.

8-1=7 or 9-2=7

Seven is the first digit of the answer.Write it down. Now multiply the two number below.

2X1=2

Two is the last digit of the answer. Hence, the answer is 72..

Isn't it easy? This is just a simple example to prove how math can be so much easy and fun, but to make mental calculations, one needs more practice, practice and practice..

Try some more given below.

1) 9X9 2)8X9 3)8X8 4)5X9 5)7X9 6)8X7

Copy in a piece of paper and keep practicing, advanced methods will be described in later posts...Math Help

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Real and Actual Meaning of PERSONALITY and tips for its Development

Well every human being might have different perception, attitude and meaning for this broad terminology “PERSONALITY”, as we, human beings, are said to be social animal and the only animal having something powerful tool called MIND which other animals do not possess in this entire planet. Other animals also got BRAIN but its potential is limited. But our brain and its capacity are simply unlimited. Because of this tool, we are ruling the entire universe. I have mentioned all of this because, with external and internal beauties, this organ of human also plays significant role in developing, enriching and boosting our personality as a whole.
Now, what actually Personality means?
According to ENCARTA DICTIONARY ,Personality means
1.
somebody's set of characteristics: the totality of somebody's attitudes, interests, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles, and other individual traits that endure over long periods of time
2.
characteristics making somebody appealing: the distinctive or very noticeable characteristics that make somebody socially appealing
· a partner with real personality
3.
somebody regarded as epitomizing traits: somebody regarded as epitomizing particular character traits
4.
famous person: a famous person, especially an entertainer or athlete
5.
unusual person: a distinctive and unusual person
6.
quality of being person: the quality of existing as a person
· Do you think that computers will ever achieve personality?
7.
distinguishing characteristics: the distinguishing characteristics of a place or situation Microsoft® Encarta® 2007. © 1993-2006 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

Are these definitions and descriptions really defining personality as a whole? We can say ‘Yes’ to some extend because whenever we talk about personality most of us go for “LOOKS”. But here comes the diversion of definition. Is personality at a glance means to say “LOOKS”? For me, its partial. The foremost thing or the main thing for which we can determine or perceive another stranger is via his external or physical outfit, as no one can know how he is? His behavior, character at a glance so personality at a glance goes for “LOOKS”. But, most of the people only think that if a person has good looks, then he/she has got personality and I totally disagree this statement. He/she only possess looks, external personality but not personality as a whole. So to analyze or determine somebody’s total personality we have to understand him/her which needs time. Someone might not be good looking but he/she can have his/her behavior, character outstanding and vice-versa.
Personality traits are not inborn or genetically inherent. We have to develop or enhance these traits after landing on earth. We are the only one who can develop our whole personality. There are others like our parents who are always there to help us but the actual hero is with us. If we are interested to develop our personality we need to learn many things and might be more and more and more things. Apart from academic education we must have to learn many extra curricular things like-
1) Public Speaking Skills.
2) Body language Skills.
3) Handwriting analysis Skills.
4) Behavioral Skills.
5) Anger Management Skills.
6) Fitness Skills.
7) Yoga and Exercise.
8) Food habit.
9) Communication Skills.
10) Friends making Skills.
11) Relationship Skills.
12) Superlearning Skills.
13) Dealing with problems.
14) Self or Auto-Suggestions skills and much more which can’t be listed here.

A person can only be real person when he/she can be cent percent successful in fulfilling his/her whole responsibility and the above mentioned point are the key points and landmarks to make one RESPONSIBLE, RATIONAL, BOLD, BRAVE and SMART…

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