Natural Medicine Laughing!!!

Human blood contains receptors which receive signal of happiness from the brain and pass them. Then the process of healing is made faster. Hence, the more you laugh, the healthier you become, and the healthier you become the more your personality rejuvenates.
By smiling, laughing and wearing cheerful expressions, we strengthen the immune system to prevent and fight diseases.
If tension, stress and anxiety make a man sick, then its sure happiness, cheerfulness, contentment and joy should help a man cure his diseases. As for old age, "It is a state of mind. If a man's mind continues to be fresh and accept ideas he is not old".
"If hope lives within his heart and he continues to look ahead, he is not old. If the spark of love lives within him and he continues to expect the best from life, he is not old".
People tonay need a sence of humour to laugh often. How?
Here is some tips for that:-
Get up in the morning, look yourself on the mirror, smile and say "GOOD MORNING" to your inner psychic. Always remember that, there is another human being inside you so we oftenly say somthing like "SELF RESPECT" dont we? After then give a good postitive smile and again say "GOOD MORNING " to the LORD who created you, thank to your mom dad for giving you life. See that your face always glows with smile although you are sad or happy because, the one who can smile in hard times will never be in grief.
Mahatma Gandhi has also mentioned that," You are not completely dressed until your face wears a smile". You must laugh appropriately often as you can.
Apart from this laughing also maintains your blood pressure in normal and also helps in digestion.
It also rejuvenates your skin and keep you away from ageing or wrinkles still in your old age.
These all are scientific benefits of smiling or laughing but smile always in your face brings other remarkable results in your public and social relations but one thing your smile must be from inner heart , must be pure and original not artificial. Smiling is also one signal of body language so if your smile is artificial, then that would be a poision for you which definately works against.
Always give a good smile to your frens to your collegues and to everyone you relate with. Laughing at wrong time or wrong situation can be harmful too, for an instance if you laugh at people ,his condition then that would be destructive. So, you need to take care of this too.
So whenever possible smile and laugh at the right time at the right place......
Just do one thing-
Give a postitive smile to everyone you meet after this, smiling definately brings postitive affirmations and postitive behavior in you. If you do this for some days, you will definately see remarkable and awesome outcome......good luck ahead!!!

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Real and Actual Meaning of PERSONALITY and tips for its Development

Well every human being might have different perception, attitude and meaning for this broad terminology “PERSONALITY”, as we, human beings, are said to be social animal and the only animal having something powerful tool called MIND which other animals do not possess in this entire planet. Other animals also got BRAIN but its potential is limited. But our brain and its capacity are simply unlimited. Because of this tool, we are ruling the entire universe. I have mentioned all of this because, with external and internal beauties, this organ of human also plays significant role in developing, enriching and boosting our personality as a whole.
Now, what actually Personality means?
According to ENCARTA DICTIONARY ,Personality means
1.
somebody's set of characteristics: the totality of somebody's attitudes, interests, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles, and other individual traits that endure over long periods of time
2.
characteristics making somebody appealing: the distinctive or very noticeable characteristics that make somebody socially appealing
· a partner with real personality
3.
somebody regarded as epitomizing traits: somebody regarded as epitomizing particular character traits
4.
famous person: a famous person, especially an entertainer or athlete
5.
unusual person: a distinctive and unusual person
6.
quality of being person: the quality of existing as a person
· Do you think that computers will ever achieve personality?
7.
distinguishing characteristics: the distinguishing characteristics of a place or situation Microsoft® Encarta® 2007. © 1993-2006 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

Are these definitions and descriptions really defining personality as a whole? We can say ‘Yes’ to some extend because whenever we talk about personality most of us go for “LOOKS”. But here comes the diversion of definition. Is personality at a glance means to say “LOOKS”? For me, its partial. The foremost thing or the main thing for which we can determine or perceive another stranger is via his external or physical outfit, as no one can know how he is? His behavior, character at a glance so personality at a glance goes for “LOOKS”. But, most of the people only think that if a person has good looks, then he/she has got personality and I totally disagree this statement. He/she only possess looks, external personality but not personality as a whole. So to analyze or determine somebody’s total personality we have to understand him/her which needs time. Someone might not be good looking but he/she can have his/her behavior, character outstanding and vice-versa.
Personality traits are not inborn or genetically inherent. We have to develop or enhance these traits after landing on earth. We are the only one who can develop our whole personality. There are others like our parents who are always there to help us but the actual hero is with us. If we are interested to develop our personality we need to learn many things and might be more and more and more things. Apart from academic education we must have to learn many extra curricular things like-
1) Public Speaking Skills.
2) Body language Skills.
3) Handwriting analysis Skills.
4) Behavioral Skills.
5) Anger Management Skills.
6) Fitness Skills.
7) Yoga and Exercise.
8) Food habit.
9) Communication Skills.
10) Friends making Skills.
11) Relationship Skills.
12) Superlearning Skills.
13) Dealing with problems.
14) Self or Auto-Suggestions skills and much more which can’t be listed here.

A person can only be real person when he/she can be cent percent successful in fulfilling his/her whole responsibility and the above mentioned point are the key points and landmarks to make one RESPONSIBLE, RATIONAL, BOLD, BRAVE and SMART…

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Developing confidence in Public Speaking

There are not actual rules regarding the confidence built up on how to speak before public. The innate or real potential is within the particular human being but some rules can really be helpful and i tried to collect and summarized below...

FIRST- GET THE FACTS ABOUT FEAR OF SPEAKING IN PUBLIC

Fact No. One: You are not unique in your dear of speaking in public. Surveys in colleges indicate that 80-90% of all students enrolled in speech classes suffer from stage fright at the beginning of the course.

Fact No. Two: A certain amount of stage fright is useful!!. Its nature's way of preparing us to meet unusual and unexpected challenges in our life. So, when you notice pulse beating faster and your respiration speeding up, don't become alarmed. Your body, ever alert to external stimuli, is getting ready to go into action.. If these physiological preparations are held within limits, you will be capable of thinking faster,talking more fluently and generally speaking with greater intensity than under normal circumstances.

Fact No.Three: Many professional speakers have assured that they never completely lose all stage fright!!.. It is almost always present just before they speak, and it may persist through the first few sentences of their talk or speech. This is price these men and women pay for being like race horses and not like draft horses. Speakers who say they are "cool as a cucumber" at all times are usually as thick-skinned as a cucumber and about as inspiring as a cucumber.

Fact No.Four: The main cause of your fear of public speaking is simply that you are unaccustomed to speak in public!!!. "Fear is misbegotten of ignorance and uncertainty," says Professor Robinson in THE MIND IN THE MAKING . For most people, public speaking is an unknown quantity, and consequently one fright with known quantity, and consequently one fraught with anxiety and fear factors. For the beginner, it is a complex series of strange situations, more involved than, say, learning to play tennis on drive a car. To make this fearful situation simple and easy: practice, practice, practice. You will find, as thousands upon thousands have, that public speaking can be made a joy instead of an agony merely by getting a record of successful speaking experiences behind you.
The story of how Albert Edward Wiggam, the prominent lecturer and popular psychologist, overcame his fear, can be an inspiration to all. He tells how terror-struck he was at the thought of standing up in high school and delivering a five-minute declamation.
"As the day approached, he writes, "I became positively ill. Whenever the dreadful thought occurred to me, my whole had would flush with blood and my cheeks would burn so painfully that i would go behind the school building and press them against the cold brick wall to try to reduce their surging blushes".
" On one occasion, I carefully memorized a declamation beginning,'Adam and Jefferson are no more.' When I faced the audience, my head was swimming so I scarcely knew where i was. I managed to gasp out the opening sentence, stating that ' Adams and Jefferson have passed away.' I couldn't say another word, so i bowed....and walked solemnly back to my seat amid great applause. The president got up and said,'Well Edward, we are shocked to hear the sad news, but we will do our best to bear up under the circumstances. During the uproarious laughter that followed, death would, surely have been a welcome relief. I was ill for days afterward.
"Certainly the last thing on earth i ever expected to become was a public speaker." A year after he left college, Albert Wiggam was in Denver. One day he read a pamphlet explaining the proposals of the Free Silverites; he became so incensed over what he considered the errors and hollow promises of Bryan and his followers, that he pawned his watch for enough money to get back to his native Indiana. Once there, he offered his services to speak on the subject of sound money. Many services to speak on the subject of sound money. Many of his old school friends were in the audience and i managed somehow to live through the introduction; and encouraged by even this tiny success, i went to talking for what i thought was about fifteen minutes. To my amazement, i discovered i had been talking an hour and a half!.
"As a result, within the next few years, i was the most surprised person in the world to find myself making my living as a professional public speaker.
" I knew at first hand what William James meant by the habit of success."
Yes, Albert Edward learned that one of the surest ways of overcoming the devastating fear of speaking before groups is to get a record of successful experiences behind you.
You should expect a certain amount of fear as a natural adjunct of your desire to speak in public, and you should learn to depend on a limited amount of stage fright to help make you give a better talk..

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Angry men get ahead at work, angry women don’t: STUDY

A MAN who gets angry at work may well be admired for it, but a women who shows anger in the workplace is liable to be seen as ‘out of control’ and incompetent, according to new studies.
What’s more, the finding may have implications for Hillary Clinton as she attempts to become the first female president, according to its author VICTORIA BRESCOLL, a post doctoral scholar at Yale University.
Her research paper “When can angry women get ahead?” noted that Clinton was described last year by a leading Republican as “too angry to be elected president” .
Previous research has indicated that anger can communicate that an individual, feels entitled to dominate others, and therefore perhaps is. But in a paper to be delivered at a weekend conference, Brescoll said such studies focused on men.
“As senator Clinton’s experience suggests, however, for a professional women anger expression may lead to a decrease rather than an increase in her status”, Brescoll wrote.
She conducted three tests in which men and women recruited randomly watched videos of a job interview and were asked to rate the applicant’s status and assign them a salary.
In the first, the scripts were identical except where the candidate described feeling either angry or sad about losing an account due to a colleague’s late arrival at a meeting.
Participants conferred the most status on the man who said he was angry, the second most one the women who said she was sad, slightly less on the man who said he was sad, and least of all by a sizable margin on the women who said she was angry.
The average salary assigned to the angry man almost $38000 compared to about $23500 for the angry women and in the region of $30000 for the other two candidates.
In the second experiment, the script was similar except that the job applicant also described his/her current occupation as a trainee or a senior executive.
“Participants rated angry female CRO as significantly less competent than all of the other targets, including even the angry female trainee,”
Brescoll wrote >She said they viewed angry females as significantly more “out of control”.
That impacted salaries. Unemotional women were assigned on average $55384 compared to $32902 for the angry ones. Male executive candidates were assigned more than trainees, regardless of anger, with an average $73643.
A third experiment tested whether a good reason for anger made any difference. The script was changed so that some angry candidates explained that the co-worker who arrived late had lied beforehand, indicating he had directions to the meeting.
Sure enough, the angry women with a good reason to be angry were awarded much higher salary than the angry women who provided no excuse, though it was still less than the men.

“It’s an attitude that is no conscious,” Brescoll said.” People are hardly aware of it.”
Brescoll said the findings revealed a “difficult paradox” for professional women-while anger can serve as a powerful tool to achieve status at work, women may have to behave calmly in order to be seen as rational.

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Tips For Having Interesting, Dynamic, Impressive And Meaningful Conversations !!

Communication makes society progress, grow, and change. From the time man was created to this day, he has been struggling to perfect this skill. Gone are the days of drawing on rocks, flickering fingers, and grunting sounds.

These days, we can communicate in many different ways. We are no longer confined to just the spoken word. Because of the conception of mail, the manner in which human beings communicate has grown by leaps and bounds. Today, the most common form of communication is done via the Internet. Email, blogging, chatting are only some of the many popular forms of communication. How then in this new technological world can a person still have interesting, meaningful, face-to-face conversations? Below are 4 easy tips to help any person have great and substantial conversations.
1. Be interesting
For your conversation to be interesting, you have to be interesting yourself. What does this mean? Being interesting is such a subjective thing. Well, actually, this is a simple thing to achieve. Being up-to-date is one way to be interesting. Everyone loves someone who has something substantial to say because he or she is aware of what is happening around the world. Watch TV, read the newspapers, keep abreast of current events. There are so many things going on around the world that are worth paying attention to. Another way to keep things interesting is to be involved. Join chat groups, or even face-to-face organizations. Stand up for something, even if it is just one or two things that you really feel passionate about. There is bound to be even a couple of items that you love. Or, if you know you are going to socialize, then be prepared. Make a mental list of the meaty things that can be discussed. Bottom line is, no one likes a hot air balloon. If you are going to talk to people, make sure you know what you are talking about.
2. Be confident
So look, you have done all this research. Perhaps you have even gone out of your way to know other things out of the ordinary. Take shelter or refuge in that. Since you know your stuff, chances are you will not go wrong. Opinions are neither wrong nor right anyway. You just have to confident that what you are discussing with the person or people is something that makes sense and is not just a spur of the moment insight without much research support. 3. Keep smile on your face and sweetness on your voice No one wants to converse at any length, much less have a meaningful conversation with someone who looks grumpy, irritated, or arrogant. Always keep positivism in mind. Remember that even if you aren’t thinking bad thoughts your resting face might not be very approachable or pleasant. One component of interesting and meaningful communication is enjoyment after all. And no one will enjoy the conversation if the person being conversed with is just not great to be around. If this is something difficult for you, then try practicing at home. Talk to yourself in the mirror with a smile on your face. You will be surprised how well this method works in making you a generally more pleasant person to approach and talk to.
4. Be interested in others too
It comes full circle now. Just as you want to be interesting for people, they would like you to be interested as well. The surest way to make the conversation chemistry die is to look, act, and be uninterested in what the other person is saying. This may, at times, be difficult considering not everything a person wants to talk about is necessarily something you would enjoy listening to. But think of it this way, it goes both ways, but the other person was good enough to be attentive to you. A tip for how to make this an easier task is to focus on those things you know well in the conversation and relate to things you know. It is highly improbable that you will find absolutely nothing to comment on during the whole exchange. So, just by looking at these four tips it is easy to see how anyone can have meaningful conversations. And the best part is, you don’t have to spend anything or exert too much effort to have great talks.

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Disciplining Your children

Since the baby is conceived and begins to grow further in his/her mother’s womb, he/she connects or contacts to his mother in a very special way. Here birthing creates separation. Then after his birth, the child starts a long journey far from his parents. Parents usually teach their child how they can sustain on their own. Children as being individual human being have their own free wish to choose their own field. However, they need to be defendant on their parents on many ways, almost all. This transition or journey from childhood to adulthood is done by everyone, but in our own different ways and patterns. Some people believe that maturation or adolescence process is the timeline to develop one’s individuality and uniqueness which definitely vary from our own parents, the characters being developed or enhanced in this phase can be termed to be “ACQUIRED CHARACTERS” which is not related to any characters that are inherited through our forefathers’ gene.
And some other groups think that growing-up is a fine tuning of morals, beliefs, values and ideology being passed down from generation to generation.

Guiding Morally:
Spiritual, psychological and moral guidance are key ingredients in raising a child from his infant hood to adulthood. Awareness of right or wrong, good or bad is cultivated in the everyday disciplining of any children. When a child lies, his mom or dad scold and take appropriate disciplinary action. The very punishment teaches the child that lying is unacceptable. After that time, he will develop an understanding to always speak the truth.
All children regardless of race, identity, morals, beliefs, community and society is strictly in need of guidance in this modern age more than before, because they have so much temptation placed before them. Various bad habits are imposed on them either from the environment from schools, friends, or home. Due to peer pressure, majority of the youngster feels that he is in the middle of broken bridge as if he doesn’t join the crowd to learn smoking and drinking, he is considered a sissy. Having or not having a girlfriend is another pressure point. Not go for to inappropriate or debilitating behavior is tough during teenage. Yet, you as a parent can pay a major role, if not decisive, role in teaching your kids to resist what is wrong and outright evil. Reason with your kid. Point out to him if he is wading into the cesspool of error. And unless they keep off, it will soon be too late to come out unscathed.
Enduring happiness lies in self-control and in being a master of your emotions and feelings as well as actions. Youth need to know that paradoxically true freedom means the capacity to control oneself in any situation, and not indulge in explosive acts of passion and recklessness that hurt others and often destroy the doer. If youngsters continue their practice of truth, they will meet like-minded friends. Yet, teach them that human relations are transitory. Teach them the law of Newton which is also practicable in any filed and any ways of living as “every action has equal and opposite reactions”: If you do wrong to others that wrong will definitely return back to you.
Indulgence is likes and dislikes make a children slave to his feelings and desires. You are just spoiling him if you say “What would you like to eat? You don’t have to eat if you don’t like it.” The child grows up thinking that so long as his desires are satisfied he will be definitely happy and that the purpose or aim of life is to fulfill desires. Later in life, he would realize that he has been misled; the world out there is different from what he has seen at home. To satisfy one’s every whim is not easy in the world.
Do not pamper children. Give them true freedom by keeping their lives principle to be “SIMPLE LIVING HIGH THINKING “from his childhood.

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Anger Management

Anger as Positive energy

“I was angry with my friend I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe; I told it not, my wrath did grow”. –William Blake

“Paradoxically someone had also said: “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” So, how should one deals with emotions like anger, which if expressed wholeheartedly, can have negative implications and if these feelings are suppressed they eat away at us from within?

For every truth, the exact opposite is also a truth and balancing our lives between these paradoxes, is the middle path that spiritual seekers aspire for.

Anger, if it is recognized and acknowledged, can become positive energy to enable us to change the circumstances we are angry about. If we look closely at anger, it usually stems from a deep of hurt or rejection and the wrath is the defense for what is actually a very vulnerable state of mind.

For many years, approx 18 years of my lifetime, I didn’t know how to express anger. In fact, I was not really aware of this eating away at me. When it started surfacing, I found it difficult to deal with this angry and unpleasant person that I now saw myself as. Even today, there is a sense of guilt or venting my feelings one someone else, when I am aware that people are only instruments in the hands of God. I find it difficult to tell someone that what they have just said or done is not acceptable to me, because at some level, I do see that life has put this person into the orbit of my existence to do exactly this. Yet gradually the understanding dawned that if God has ordained someone to do something that is intended to teach me, then why was I not according to myself a similar role in their lives? This really opened up my mind and thereafter it has become so much easier to express my views, and feelings, especially anger.

Feelings can only be expressed, if they are accessed. Feeling emanate from many stimuli but anger arises essentially when we find that we do not get out way. If we have enough sense of ourselves and attach an appropriate value for the way we feel, for what we believe we need, then we do discuss things. Situations get out of control when the people around us are not open to discussion, when they feel insecure in acknowledging our point of view or need.

This is when anger becomes a powerful tool. Through our expression of this we destroy someone’s sense of self so that they give credence to our feelings and need. Depending upon the legitimacy of our view, this is sometimes necessary. It requires courage, thought and wisdom. Anger which is expressed from the gut is not the same as it is being expressed from the heart. This is another dimension of love, emanating from love for yourself and your needs and their validity in the face of denial and rejection, extended as love for other people and their place in our lives, which we do want to keep. If we did not, then we would distance them. This could be a way too. Being detached from achieving what we wanted in the first place, and also our self-image and its projection in any circumstances, is the key to responding appropriately to what the moment demands.

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Think Critically

LEARN TO THINK CIRITCALLY
Have you ever wondered why in the country of Ethiopia or Ruwanda or Iraq a two-year boy was 'sacrificed'? Why, just why you consider to be Hindu, Muslim , Christian or Indian, American, Russian , Nepali or whatever else you will? Or, for sometime think of something or someone you really believe in. Now ask yourself why and how did your belief come into being?
At some point of time you must wondered why even 'educated' people-poepl with doctrates and hard-to-get-degress-fall into ridiculous traps. Why?Possible because during their so-called education they didn't or were not told to ask fundamental queries. They answered questions in school about the lines on the world map separating countries but didn't analyse the hows and whys behind these lines;they mugged up the dates of wars but never pondered about the causes of war,and what they can do to eradicate them if they have to. Even moral values which were earlier cherished in formal education,and are again gaining importance, were more of an imposed drill,or handed down moral platitudes rather than being critical and promoting self-awareness. We've been given our commandments and various do's and don'ts but rarely are the reasons behind them critically discussed.
The modern mind is not trained to think critically and authentically. Our thinking is mechanical and purely functional. Those few original thinkers who still have 'a mind of their own' do so not because of the education they received in school but often, in spite of it. In fact, academic knowledge in schools today are largely superficial, much less a critical and aware outlook towards onself and the world around us. We've harly gone beyond scratching the surface of things. Cliched as it may sound,in countries like India, the education system is still colonial and geared to produce "babus" who are trained to handle files efficiently and not look into or to fundamentally question them. So, our education helps children to grow into unthinking, mechanical workers instead of helping them to develop into individuals with character, strength and independent thinker.

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Power of Prayer

Now I am going to discuss in another topic which is bit related to spiritualism but not spiritualism as a whole, so I put this topic as different one. In our day to day life, there might not be a single person out of this world who does not pray no matter his/her kind and host of “praying to” can be different. For some it can be GOD, for some it can be their INTUITION or PSYCHIC, and for some it can be SELF RESPECT or SELF CONFIDENCE, I mean the medium for whom or what we “pray to” and “pray for” can be different.

Majority of people only pray when they are in trouble, as like being stuck in exam or presentation etc (these examples were based according to me as being a student)

Here i am gonna put forth one devastating example of power of prayer if done from heart. Pratikshya Joshi, an entrepeneur engineer based in Dehli, but just one month before her 3rd-yr engineering exams, her mother was diagnosed with lung cancer. Much of her time was spent in accompanying her for radiation and other treatment, and she was left with only 10 days to study by the time the treatment was accomplished. She recalls: “My mom remarked that cz of her I would miss a year. I assured her that it would not be so and prayed to God fervently to allow me to pass so that my mom would not feel guilt on my account. I studied hard for the time class with distinction! I’d managed to excel against all odds.”

This is just one incident which somehow describes the power of prayer, there are lots of topic to be discussed. Now furthering the topic lets being from---

What is Prayer?
Prayer has been verily described.’ Communication with God via single-minded devotion’. It is the most ancient as well as the simplest expressions of religion. It is also universal, we can’t think of culture or society where prayer doesn’t exist. ‘The words of sages, sheers and prophets are prayers’. ‘Prayer is an act of Thanks-giving, a feeling of surrender- that there is a power beyond me’.’ It is a confirmation of your faith in a divine power’.’ Spiritual connection with something higher’.

Prayer is different from meditation, which progressively quietens the mind.

Muslims pray to ALLAH, the transcendent God, HINDUS pray to BHAGWAN, and CHRISTIAN pray to Jesus, or to Mother Mary, BUDDHIST pray to BHAGWAN GAUTAMA BUDDHA, as I have explained earlier, the medium or host for whom we pray for or to is different but the resultant we will achieve or the objective of our pray to all of them are peace of mind, prosperity, wealth, health normally.

Why should one pray?

Distress, despair and ill-health can strike and paralyze anyone. More, if friends, family, counselors and not even doctors are unable to help, who do your turn to? This is the opening to prayer providence you. Prayer is depending on God for help in distress and grief. It gives an opportunity to God to comfort the devotee. Prayer lightens the heaviness of your heart by opening it to god. Prayer is expecting God to decide what is best for you when you are in dilemma.

“The first rule in prayer is to approach God only with legitimate desires. The second is to pray for their fulfillment, not as a beggar, but as a son” –(Paramhansa Yogananda)

NOTE: RELATED TOPICS WILL BE DETAILED SOON.

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Body Language (Part I)

Well, All of us might be known with this terminology, "BODY LANGUAGE". And most of us also haven't give a damn about how important this language for us which we must know.As, Topic suggest, Body language is simply the language of Body, a part of non-verbal communication. There are various ways of communication , foremost is speaking, talking, writing. All of these belongs to verbal communication. "Gesturing" can also be termed as body language which is absolutely non-verbal means. What we are trying to deliver to the one whom we are communicating through verbal means might not be exactly similar to the one which we are delivering from our non-verbal means i.e. BODY. Now, we can determine the importance and power of our language continuously delivering the exactness.All of us, at some time, have seen someone talking on the phone without hearing one word of what is being said. All we can see is a constant stream of different gestures like smiles,frowns,raised eyebrows,nodes,shakes etc etc. We may wonder at the use of such gestures as the listener on the other end cant see the gestures. The easiest reason to explain it is that we would have to concentrate real hard to not gesture. Expressions and gestures are so intermingled with our words,that it would be a tough task to try and separate the words and the gestures. Through the range of facial expressions and gesticulations, we can get clues on what is being communicated on the phone, even though we can't hear the words being spoken.There are times, when one not knowing the other too well and after a phone conversation on a delicate subject with them, have felt an indefinable impression of unease and wonder what was being said between the lines. This shows that we are quite dependent on reading a person's face and body language to grasp what is actually being said.We all know there is one popular quote "FIRST IMPRESSION IS THE LAST ONE", and this quotation has also something to do with body language. When we meet to someone first time, initially with looking his/her looks, external beautiful, we will also be perceiving his/her body language simultaneously knowingly or unknowingly and out mind will decide if that person is good or bad regarding this impulse delivered to the brain by the means of eyes.That particular feeling or perception regarding that particular person is our "GUT FEELING".When it comes to first impressions and that gut feeling, we perceived about someone, most of us seem a little hesitant to follow our instincts when it results negative. Maybe its human nature to want to give the person the benefit of doubt, to believe in the good in people, even if we do not see it. Studies have shown that quite often that "gut feeling" is our subliminal or subconscious mind making a decision about trusting someone on the basis of the non-verbal cues we are picking up. On a conscious level, we might like what we see or what we hear but on the deeper level, we are aware that the person's apparent physical and verbal message contradicts what his/her body language is saying.

 THE LANGUAGE OF BODY

When one expresses his/her feelings, it has been said that.

• 55% of the communication consists of body language.
• 38% is expressed via the tone of voice or intonation and amazingly only
• 7% is communicated via words.

This means that we express most of our feeling ( 93%) in a non-verbal way and our words only convey 7% of what we are saying or expressing.

Comparatively speaking, why is the role of body language so large?

First of all, we need to realize that we don't keep talking constantly. But we do give our incessant signals via our body language, when in some person's company. It is also helpful to look a the various levels on which we communicate. Most of the time, we communicate with each other on the content level and relational level.

at the same time.We put across the content of the message through words and relation through our body language.

When we are talking with another people, we talk about something, some person, some topic etc etc. We would like to clarify or make something clear to the other person about a specific subject. This is the actual content of the conversation. At this level, we tell or portray to the other person what the message is all about. Generally its very easy to express the content of message through the use of spoken language or commonly understood gestures. Due to the fact  that the meaning of words, figures or signals that we use have been agreed to unilaterally, its forum of expression don't need to bear any resemblance with what us denoted. For example, the terminology  "clock" has nothing to do with time. To understand the other person, we need to speak his language. When the words or signals that we use to put accross our message dont bear any similarity to what they denote, its called digital language.

Content and relation:

When we are communicating with other people, we can send messages on a content level and on a relational level as explained earlier. When one is communicating in content level, its about transmitting concrete and substantial information. On a relational level, its about how a message should be interpreted and about how the relationship between the people concerned. A message is often transmitted on a content level and on a relational level simultaneously.

For instance, a person can say: "Oh my god, you look like million dollars!!".

 On a content level, a comment is made about the person looking great. On a relational level this sentence can have different meanings, for example

• What a nice dressup1
• You have paid way too much for that dress!
• You are looking awesome!
•  I too would like to look like you!
• That dress is expensive but i actually think its really ugly.

Relational Level

Through our communication, its not only the content that has to be communicated. Along with out words, we also pass on signals that indicate how we perceive the other person as well as how the message should be interpreted by him/her. At the relational level, we articulate how we are related to the receiver of the message and what the message means. Therefore, for the conveying of feelings and relations, digital language is not quite adequate. What exactly it is that we imply by our words is not simple to express only through our words. It is also very difficult to make clear our feeling about another person. Words for example can come across a lot tougher that they are meant to.

Therefore, to make our feelings and intentions clear, we prefer to make the use of an expressive language. In this manner, what we express can be established in the gesture or signals itself, without having to learn this or having to agree on it especially. For example, the gesture of pointing at your was has something to do with time. Apart from seeing what time it is on watch, we can use it to give a signal that can be understood by everyone, without having to agree on it. This is called analogue language.

Three aspects

Communication on a relational level consists of the following three aspects:

- The expressive aspect

- The relational aspect

- The appealing aspect

Expressive aspect says something about how the sender expresses himself and the impression this makes on the receiver. does he make a professional impression or is he a layman? Does he come across as reliable? Is he friendly or not? Does he have time, is he restless or does he seem to be a hurry? Is he insolent and arrogant or a polite instead?

The relational aspect says something about how the receiver regards the relation with the sender: is the position of the sender equal, higher or subordinate? Does the receiver rate the intelligence of the sender to be high or low? Is the receiver appreciative or disparaging in relation to the sense.

With the appealing aspect it is about how the content of the message is being transmitted by the receiver. The message can be transmitted in different ways: ordering, questioning,, begging or informing. 

Often, the content of the message is expressed in words and the relation with the help of body language. The intonation and the facial expression especially play a big role in this. One can just say the aforementioned sentence about the dress in different intonations and you will find that it takes on different meanings. Non-verbal communication communicates about the verbal communications. When in doubt about the truth of the message or the sincerity of the speaker, people tend to believe non-verbal communication over the verbal one. Besides the content, it is good to also get the relational aspects of the communication clear. In order to achieve this, it is necessary to address the other person or to ask him questions about his method of communicating. Like this, we do no speak about the content of the message but about the meaning behind it and its relational aspect. 

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Spiritualism

Spiritualism is a religion, a science, a philosophy and a way of life; not only is life eternal, but this can be verified. As a religion it is progressive and is considered by many to be the mother of all religions .

As a philosophy it is clear and accessible, and as a way of life it brings an element of joy into every nook and cranny of every-one’s pathway via life on earth.

Spiritualism itself was born of the northern hemisphere of our planet, although its phenomena are universal and timeless and the truths that is has revealed are as old as the earth itself.

So how does spiritualism prove that every human being, as well as every other,

creature lives for ever?

This is established through medium ship. It is established through those dedicated people who develop their psychic abilities to such extent that they are able to make a link, to become the exchange whereby those who presently reside in the world of spirit may communicated with those still here in the world of physical matter.

Our psychic being is our intuitive self.. It is that aspect of our persona that knows what we like and what we dislike.-and not only that very often who we like and whom we dislike at the first meeting.

All of us can recall walking into a building whether it be someone’s home or a public place, and feeling immediately uncomfortable, or walking into a crowded room, perhaps at a party, and seeing someone whom we like the look of or feel drawn to for no particular reason. Or the experience of making up a foursome for your friend’s benefits, a so-called “blind date” situation, where you can then forced to be in company of someone to whom you have taken an immediate dislike for an entire evening. All these impulses emanate from your psychic faculties.

This psychic side of your earthly life has a direct association with your spirit, and via your spirit to the spirit dimensions.

Modern Spiritualism first appeared in the 1840s in the Burned-Over
of upstate New York where earlier religious movements such as Millerism (Seventh Day Adventists) and Mormonism had emerged during the Second great awakening. It was an environment in which many people felt that direct communication with God or angels was possible, and in which many people felt uncomfortable with notions that God would behave harshly — for example, that God would condemn unbaptised infants to an eternity in Hell.

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Handwriting Analysis (Part 1)

Well, To analyze who we are and our behavior , there are lots of ways , tool and techniques. Among them, handwriting analysis is one of the strong tool. Indeed, we can determine one's character by our handwriting as it is directly connected to our brain. Handwriting analysis is not based on assumption or ideology, its purely scientific and technical. One can't determine by simple studying this article. To know how is the particular person, at least we need 15 days to analyze and research.We can not only determine his innate abilities, potentialities inherit from his/her birth, but also we can know his mood at the particular period when he is being examined or evaluated. By measuring and calculating the upstrokes, down strokes angle, aperture of single single letters, sharpness, heaviness of handwriting , gap between words, letters, sentences, style of writing and much more options are there to be calculated before we can analyze and come to the conclusion.Each and every word making you feel so special and loved. But remember when a person sits to write anything, they not only write but also their handwriting reveals their character, behavior and experiences, in other words handwriting reveals to us much more than the feelings of happiness or sadness but the complete person. Which technique is this? Graphology, or the analysis of handwriting to reveal character traits. The handwriting never lies thus handwriting analysis is one of the most non-discriminatory tools available.Researchers have defined that handwriting is actually brain writing. It is an expression of small electrical impulses from the brain to the hand. A thought, a movement, even a feeling is a result of such electrical impulses dictated from the brain. So if you want to know about your beloved or anyone even much more better, here are some fine and great tips for you that really works.I can't put here or define each and every traits of handwriting analysis here but i try to display some indications and traits below and will update more in near future.

1.If a person leaves a huge gap at the left side, then you can predict the person to be very CAUTIOUS in love as well as any work. They take a long time to come to any decision.


2.If a persons whole sentence flows towards up, he/she is optimistic by nature.


3. If a person's letters are blur in average, he/she might be suffering from internal maladies.


4.Back-warding of words or sentence define that the person is introvert.


5.A person leaving huge space at the right side are assumed to be an ideal person. They are very punctual and they always try to meet the deadline.


6.If a person doesn’t leave even a single space or centimeter, such persons are impatient, aggressive and moody in nature.


7.If you see a paper where words are quite close to each other, quite jumbled and scrambled then the handwriting reveals that the person has a number of tasks to accomplish in a short period. The person thinks himself to be very superior. They have their own ideas and will only agree with you if you agree with them.


8.If a person while writing goes beyond or below the line of the paper, it shows the person to be pessimistic and with low self-esteem .


9.If a person while writing goes up and above the line of the paper, it shows the person to be optimistic they are sure that tomorrow will be better and always looks on the bright side of life.


10.While writing, if the handwriting are bent towards right it shows the writer have high self-esteem and high personal expectations but are not able to work out as per their expectations.


11.While writing, if the handwriting are bent towards left it shows the person is confident, ambitious, has the ability to plan ahead, high goals, high expectations, and an overall good self image.

 THE BROAD STROKES:
Handwriting analysis is putting together a jigsaw puzzle or backing a cake-- you need all the pieces of ingredients to create the whole from the parts. And where each part may not mean all that much in itself, the result, your personality, can be thrilling and exciting to unveil. Graphology involves the analysis of hundreds of strokes of handwriting, individually and in relation to one another, in order to see and evaluate a personal in detail, a total pattern of behavior.
A sample of handwriting is as complex as the person who wrote it. So you can't tell much by simply glancing at the writing. A detailed study of the strokes is the only way an accurate personality portrait can be painted, so each nuance of the sample must be examined carefully and interpreted circumspectly.
A graphological analysis is so structured that even those who try to disguise their handwriting won't get success. The true personality always comes through because its difficult to sustain the concentration needed to truly mask inherent characteristics. Yet, like medicine, graphology is not only a science but an art. The science comes in mastering the techniques, which the art is in applying those techniques to their best advantage. The combined result is a potent knowledge that will open many doors and can change whole life....
Taking the handwriting Sample
Some necessary items to study graphology are mentioned as
- Sharp pencils ( 2)
- Strong light (straight focused)
- Powerful magnifying Glass.
- An 8 and half by 11 inch bond paper for writing sample.
- Legal-sized pad of paper for exercises.
- Tracing paper.
- The Graphogauge ( process to make graphogauge will be described later)
After acquiring these equipments, now you are ready to study the person's character by his/her handwriting ( as we all know handwriting actually is brain writing). Now, a full page of handwriting is needed for useful and quality evaluation. Few words, lines or a signature can't be helpful for determining to exact analysis. Therefore, enough and proper writing is a requisite to see a pattern emerge and to compare the strokes for consistency.
Never take a sample on lined paper, since the direction of the writing takes is significant, lined paper creates structure that inhibits the writer's natural flow. In general writing slanting in upwards position indicates optimism while that slanting downwards indicates pessimism, so the variation from the base line should not be interrupt neither can be ignored.
The author should write anything that comes to mind. The content of sample doesn't matter because our aim is to analyze the strokes, not words or sentences. it should be spontaneous and should be written in a free-flow style. On no account should the sample be copied, because that, would impede the author's ability to write naturally. The "brain writing" signal shouldn't be thwarted by the concentration it takes to copy a passage, which breaks up the thought process.
A ballpoint pen is preferable to any other writing instruments for the sample as it gives you the best means to measure the writer's pressure ( the way the writer bears down on the paper is significant in an analysis). The author should write the sample in any way that is comfortable. The object is to get the sample that completely reflects the personality of the individual who wrote it. If the sample is printed, however , make sure that a few lines of script are added as a backup measure. Printing can be analyzed in its own right, but the addition of these few lines will ensure that you make a full, accurate analysis

If you want complete analysis of your behavior via your handwriting, all you  need to do is contacting me. I will help to change your life via changing your handwriting as being a professional handwriting analyst. For that, half analysis will be sent within 3 days of request and partial payment verification and half will sent after full payment. My charge is 14$s and payment will be on paypal. For payment please click on the PAYNOW button at the top of page selecting your membership and before payment, do mail me, my mailing id is gjivan@msn.com

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Hypnotism for beginners

Well i am again here with another self development topic termed as HYPNOTISM... i guess every one of you is familiar with this term "HYPNOTISM". ok now we go in depth of hypnotism.

Hypnotism is a splendid science. It is derived from great scientist MENDEL so initially it was termed as "MENDELISM", laterally it was renamed as "HYPNOTISM".There are many misconceptions regarding this science in society but , simply it is defined as a science to improve our inner self. To know who we actually are, to control over ourselves is the basic objective which hypnotism possess. Majority of people says that hypnotism is an art of meditation but thats not true... Actually, meditation is a part of hypnotism but hypnotism is not a part of meditation. There are several Meditating techniques helpful for practicing hypnotism which will be discussed in detail in coming days.

There are many field which , hypnotism has occupied, it is said that the first doctor , HIPPOCRATES also used to practice hypnotism. Apart from him, we can learn from many Hindu ethics like RAMAYAN, MAHABHARATA as hypnotism was practiced by many sheers so that they can be able to meditate in extreme cold mountain tops with nude body, this is one part or traditional story which defines hypnotism. This is traditional thing, not only this, hypnotism is serving human kind from the beginning. We are using it knowingly or unknowingly. for example, physiotherapy uses hypnotism. It was also used to be great tool for relaxing, memory increasing and pain easing. By the help of this great science, operations used to be done in ancient periods. And in these days also many minor operations are done via this science as it is used as anesthesia. We can see many examples in various TV channels about hypnotism like 'THE HISTORY CHANNEL'. ...

Brief benefits of Hypnotism:

There are unlimited benefits we can get from hypnotism but some are as follows.

1. Able to get rid from any kind of ADDICTION:
   By the help of this science, we can be able to put off any kind of addiction hampering our health, wealth, social status and personal development. For example, stop smoking by the help of quit smoking hypnotism, quiting alocoholism and much more drug addiction problem.
2. Able to rejuvenate or physical , mental ,psychological, spiritual and social development and improvement.
3. Helpful in maintaining health in all aspects e.g losing extra weight by weight loss hypnotism.
4. Boosting confidence and maintain smart state of body relaxed and mind alert through confidence hypnotism.These are some of the benefits we can gain by hypnotism therapy. We can practicehypnotism therapy in many hypnosis training programe.

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Meaning of StudY!!!

STUDY OF STUDYING?

In the broadcast sense, for a student, study may be defined as " the pursuit of knowledge". Therefore, all our lives are spent in study to some extent. Study is not limited to specific activities or particular environmental situations. It is not confined to work in the classroom or to reading and writing in "private study". While , of course, you must initially acquire basic infos and skills in such situation, this is only the first step in studying'.(Unfortunately it is all too often the limit of studying which many students reach). To study fully you must spend a great deal of your time working with toe hrs proficient in the subject or profession which you desire to master. U must observe,discuss, and solve problems in practical situations. You can't become a competent teacher or nurse or engineer or a doctor without practical classes or by simply reading books, writing and listening to lectures. If study only involved perceiving and remembering facts and skills, then the vast majority of the time we spent in school was surely wasted.. the 'Pursuit of knowledge', must be accessed in much wider terms, based on gathering information but extended into the development of attitudes and modes of thinking. The time spent by the students in college should be a period of particularly intense study when there is a very great deal to learn in a comparatively short duration, although under conditions more conducive to academic work than those likely to be encountered at other times. It is essential for the student to make the most efficient use of his college days both in acquiring and susbsequent utilization of knowledge.
Ways for gaining knowledge:There are various ways for us to acquire knowledge apart from being bookworm. Every term can't be described here but i tried to mention some.1. Learning via Environment-Yes, its definately true and effective way to gain knowledge from environment or nature as there is nothing great mentor than nature which is giving us priceless properties from the beginning of time and also mentoring us to use it properly.2. Learning from our Elders-No matter we acquire highest degree or certificate, we can never beat our elders as they have something more which we also done have , i.e. EXPERIENCE, no matter we are technical, technological but our elders' suggestion will always help us in any field, so don't ignore what they say.3.Learning from Medias, Television and Radios-Definately, we can earn from various medias, this is what we call the boon of technology. We can hear,see the very latest information,news, various entertaining programs and much more. Some knowledge based channels are The NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC CHANNEL, THE HISTORY CHANNEL, THE ANIMALS PLANET, THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL etc etc.4. Learning from FAILURE-We can also learn from our past failures, as "FAILURE IS THE PILLAR OF SUCCESS".We must take failures as our strength not weakness. Our attitude should be utilizing the failure so that we can achieve highest in future with our full potentials.
5. Study in and apart from HOME-Home Study is sufficient to pass exam. It is exam oriented but our focus must be knowledge oriented not exam, passing exam doesn't necessarily determine how much we learn...as learning not only means eating, its eating and digesting too. With respect to this, we should study and discuss in groups not only independent study can boost our whole potential, so group study with independent study is also needed.6. Online learning-For our era, its very easy to acquire information of anything from internet. So, we must also focus and sharp our studying campaign by searching what we desire by online learning.
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Superlearning

Introduction:
Well,everyone might wanna know what actually is this terminology "SUPERLEARNING" states?Without sorting a bit time, i will define what is this....

"SUPERLEARNING" is being defined differently to different people according to their experience, professions, attitudes where they have exercised and get benificiated by this power tool. Actually, this particular power is within us,inherited...we just need to open it up. Simply, for me as a student, superlearning is the technique which can boost my studying capability from 2-5 times faster with respect to increasing my retention power of any subjects i read. Superlearning is indeed a vast subject to be understood at a glance. We just cant get nothing at all only reading articles like this.....because superlearning is not only based on theories, if we really need to get our destination, we need to practice the technique with loyalty, then only we can boost our potentials. We might be in misconception that ' superlearning' can only be helpful for students but but but, superlearning can be used by anyone no matter of his/her profession,caste,tribe,morals,values and beliefs. Not only it can boost your reading power, it has been proved that superlearning is helpful in many fields as like in sports, health improvements via various superlearning musics (50 beats/ minutes high frequency sound will be discussed later).Great personalities like Bill Clinton,John F Kennedy,Stefan Hawking etc practice superlearning. I can't mention all the benefits we can achieve from this tool as there are unlimited which i might also not know too. But some core techniques that vastly accelerate learning and brighten performance are summarized below

-Get into a stress-free, "best" mindbody state for what you are doing.

-Absorb information in a paced, rhythmic way.

-Use music to expand memory, energize the mind, and link to your subliminal or subconscious mind.

-Engage your whole brain, your senses, emotions, and imagination for peak performance.

-Become aware of blocks to learning and change, then flood them away.

Supermemory
How fast can you learn? There may not be a specific speed limit. The most straightforward, elegant use of superlearning ,one thats proved endlessly successful, is to lean back and learn facts,figures and languages quickly, at any age. Imagine how you would you feel with a solid grasp of a necessary subject if you could do that without crowding your time duration. Mastering subjects is as like a practical forum of firewalking- once you prove to yourself what you are capable of , old limitations can fall across the board. how would you accelerate your learning science, for instance or maths? you can do it the way university students did in Japan, or you can do it home alone as like Brian Hamilton who did in United States. Brian Hamilton, resident of New-york City proved to himself that it works rather smart enough.Hamilton has passed his ten years since he won his masters degree in social science and became a therapist. Now he is working in Columbia University. He mentioned," I felt a little rusty, sort out of the rhythm of studying",Hamilton admits," I was getting B minuses, but i wanted to do better Two weeks before midterms, Superlearning, which i'd bought but never read, literally fell off the shelf at my feet. I went through it all in one night and thought , why not?" Hamilton himself made some trigonometry tapes focusing on "identities", something he had to know for his exams ( For step by step guide of how to create a superlearning program, you need to visit this blog most oftenly)
During study sessions, Hamilton took a few minutes to get into a "best state" for learning facts and figures. He relaxed his body to a place of deep comfort, calmed and centered his mind using full-sensed imagination; then he gave himself a few rousing positive affirmations. Ready to learn, he switched on his tape. Hamilton heard information pulsing to him in a specific rhythm: four seconds of silence. He breathed along in sync. He held his breath when something was said, breathed in an out during the pauses. Adding to the rhythmic effect, information was spoken in three different voice intonations.---normal; soft and conspiratorial; loud and commanding----cycling over and over. Once through, Hamilton put down the script he'd been following and turned on a superlearning Music tape.
He stretched out and closed his eyes. Then he head the exact same lesson over again, this time backed with special 60-beat-minute BAROQUE MUSIC [ will be defined in coming posts regarding relation between music and mind and how far can music take you]. As soothing strings sounds flooded around him, Hamilton let his mind float easily between trigonometry and the tightly structured harmonics of BACH. That was it.
Getting in the right state of body and mind for whatever you are doing. Imbibe data in a highly suggestive and rhythmic way backed by special music as like baroque. This is the heart of superlearning which pumps mush of the spectacular speed-up. Some people just relax and listen to this particular music while they hear or read data. That brings good results too, but you probably have to beat with the full rhythm of the system to unfold supermemory.

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